It’s a pretty common thing in my life. It’s something I can find at home, at school, with friends, pretty much anywhere. Honestly, I think it’s a common thing in everyone’s lives.
The most recent stress I had was when a friend who hurt me pretty bad last month (see this post for explanation) asked me to do something for him while he’s trying to make amends with me. A friend that we both know has some of his stuff. I reminded her last night the he wants his stuff back today. Apparently she didn’t show today – I had nothing to do with it. So he asked me to get the stuff from her for him – because he doesn’t want to deal her. Is he serious? I told him: “No. I’m not going to be in the middle of this anymore. If you really want your stuff back that bad, you need to talk to her yourself. I’m done doing things like this for other people. I’ve gotten hurt doing it too many times. I”m putting my foot down about it once and for all.”
I could see doing that if this was before he did what he did last month. But at this point? I’m not playing this game anymore. I’m not going to do things like this for him, or anyone at all for that matter. People need to learn to do things for themselves even if they don’t like it.
Guess what? Welcome To Life – the place where almost every single thing you have to do, you’re not gonna like.
We’re not 6 anymore. We’re all in college. It’s about time that we learned now to grow up and just do what needs doing. It may hurt your heart/pride/ego, but if it needs doing, then you need to just friggin get it done.
On your own. I’m not your mom. I’m not doing this stuff for you. Ever.