…I’m still here, I promise!!
Hmm, it’s been a hot minute since I’ve written anything. Quite honestly, it often felt like there was just nothing to say. Or that I had nothing worth saying. But reality is that so much has happened in the almost year since I was last here. It’s been well over a year since I last… Continue reading
I Am Not Giving Up On Her
It’s been months since I’ve heard from birthdad… He moved hundreds of miles away last summer for work. We stayed in touch for a while, texting multiple days a week. Then around my birthday, he just stopped communication.. I kept trying to check on him, but it was hard when I got nothing back and… Continue reading
Isolation: the process or fact of isolating or being isolatedIsolate: cause (a person or place) to be or remain alone or apart from others Loneliness: sadness because one has no friends or company Solitude: the state or situation of being alone WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE? Isolation and solitude can seem rather similar, but (to me at… Continue reading
Total Shock & Awe
I got off my monthly Bethany birthmom group call and took my coffee mug back downstairs. I had a piece of mail from BraveLove on the table, and dad asked what BraveLove is. I didn’t know what to say. He’s never really been one to want to know about my adoption. So I said I… Continue reading
Get to Know Me Better?
I’ve had this blog for quite a while (it used to be coffeetattoos.wordpress.com but I decided to upgrade recently) and never really introduced myself. So maybe it’s time for me to do that…?? I’m the middle of three kids – my sister is four years older, my brother is seven and a half years younger… Continue reading
Due date: June 30 (today)Birthday: July 8Placement: July 18 We’re coming up on a difficult time of year for me – the end of June and just the whole month of July. Especially this year – it’s like a repeat of May 2019… All the running around, and dogsitting, and so few nights in my… Continue reading
Mother’s Day Weekend As a Birthmom
My life has been a hectic so I’m just getting a chance to write this out *rolls eyes* Mother’s Day weekend as a birthmom is an interesting time, to say the least… A lot of times, birthmoms aren’t recognized as mother’s – even though we absolutely are. Now, not every birthmom is treated the same… Continue reading
It’s almost July…!! This means that it’s almost Peanut’s birthday and placement month. And that means that I’m about to be dealing with one of my most difficult months of the year. As I’m writing this, my due date is 8 days away, her birthday is 16 days away, and placement is in 26 days.… Continue reading
Quarantine Day 72…
I had a post from a year ago pop up in my IG stories, and I realized something… trying to compare May 2019 and 2020 is impossible!! Because life is nowhere near similar enough to begin playing the comparisons game! Click here to see what May looked like last year. Now, in May 2020… I’ve… Continue reading
Boundaries | Draw Your Line
In the past I preemptively sent someone to the moon – before working through things with this person. Then I allowed this person to come back from the moon… When I allowed them back, things seemed to go well at first. But then I started to realize that I didn’t want to play their games… Continue reading
Hello! Welcome! My name is Katy!
You can find me drinking coffee until it’s time for wine. Currently have 5 tattoos, but plans for more are in the works.
I’m a birthmom over 8 years post placement. I’ve been in a birthmom support group since November 2018, and will be leading my own come May 2023.
On Sunday mornings you can usually find me in the nursery or on the production team at church.
Various times throughout the year, you can find me staying with someone’s dog(s) while they’re away on a trip – so don’t be surprised if there are stories or pictures every so often.