I Am Not Giving Up On Her
It’s been months since I’ve heard from birthdad… He moved hundreds of miles away last summer for work. We stayed in touch for a while, texting multiple days a week. Then around my birthday, he just stopped communication.. I kept trying to check on him, but it was hard when I got nothing back and… Continue reading
Total Shock & Awe
I got off my monthly Bethany birthmom group call and took my coffee mug back downstairs. I had a piece of mail from BraveLove on the table, and dad asked what BraveLove is. I didn’t know what to say. He’s never really been one to want to know about my adoption. So I said I… Continue reading
Boundaries | Draw Your Line
In the past I preemptively sent someone to the moon – before working through things with this person. Then I allowed this person to come back from the moon… When I allowed them back, things seemed to go well at first. But then I started to realize that I didn’t want to play their games… Continue reading
The day after Valentines Day I drove out to Winchester and finally got my second tattoo. People love to ask me why I went to a shop that’s so far away. It’s a familiar, trusted place. And I thoroughly admire the work of both artists there. Plus, sometimes you simply want to go for a… Continue reading
National Adoption Month Posts
November was a bit of a rough month for me. I participated in Ashley Mitchell‘s Adoption Awareness Month Photo-a-Day Challenge. I somehow managed to get all of my posts up on the days they were supposed to go up, even if it wound up being at night. Granted, I did snag the sneak peek preview… Continue reading
After telling my therapist that my depression has gotten so much worse, and I’m afraid that I’ll fall back into self-harm habits again, she sent me these two lists: If you self-harm to express pain and intense emotions Paint, draw, or scribble on a big piece of paper with red ink or paint Start a… Continue reading
South Dakota recently passed legislation that allows adoption agencies to discriminate against LGBTQIA couples. It passed, 43-20-7. I know there are people in the world today who have very different opinions about the community than I do, but that’s not what I want to talk about. I want to share with you my feelings and… Continue reading
Riptide Cover Reveal
Synopsis: Avery Dacosta never expected to find a protester in front of her office. Especially not now, when she’s this close to achieving a professional milestone years in the making: building a luxury hotel on Playa Vieja, San Diego’s untouched beach paradise. Finn Travis, local surfer and all-around nice guy, never expected to find himself… Continue reading
Tempting Series Cover Reveal
Synopsis: Tempting Amazon Erotic Best Seller His body climbing over mine. My teeth biting his neck. His scent on my skin. My nails carving a path down his back. His commands whispered in my ear. All of my senses filled with him. I knew it was bad. But I craved more. It had begun… Continue reading
Open Letter to Prospective Birthmother
Hey there love, I know things right now are scary. I’ve been in your shoes. I know how you feel. You’re afraid of judgement on your situation. You’re afraid your child will grow up and hate you for placing them. You might be afraid that the adoptive parents will break their promises down the road.… Continue reading
Hello! Welcome! My name is Katy!
You can find me drinking coffee until it’s time for wine. Currently have 5 tattoos, but plans for more are in the works.
I’m a birthmom over 8 years post placement. I’ve been in a birthmom support group since November 2018, and will be leading my own come May 2023.
On Sunday mornings you can usually find me in the nursery or on the production team at church.
Various times throughout the year, you can find me staying with someone’s dog(s) while they’re away on a trip – so don’t be surprised if there are stories or pictures every so often.