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Total Shock & Awe
I got off my monthly Bethany birthmom group call and took my coffee mug back downstairs. I had a piece of mail from BraveLove on the table, and dad asked what BraveLove is. I didn’t know what to say. He’s never really been one to want to know about my adoption. So I said I… Continue reading
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South Dakota
South Dakota recently passed legislation that allows adoption agencies to discriminate against LGBTQIA couples. It passed, 43-20-7. I know there are people in the world today who have very different opinions about the community than I do, but that’s not what I want to talk about. I want to share with you my feelings and… Continue reading
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Open Letter to Prospective Birthmother
Hey there love, I know things right now are scary. I’ve been in your shoes. I know how you feel. You’re afraid of judgement on your situation. You’re afraid your child will grow up and hate you for placing them. You might be afraid that the adoptive parents will break their promises down the road.… Continue reading
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#AdoptionTalk – Navigating Open Adoption & My Feelings
It’s never an easy thing to navigate through open adoption, especially if it’s the first time for all involved. My birth daughter’s adoptive parents and I are currently navigating our open adoption. We are always re-evaluating things as she grows up. For example, our visits for the first two years were lunches in restaurants.… Continue reading
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Finding Dory Reaction
I finally went to see Finding Dory in theaters (back on July 5th). I don’t like going right when movies open cause everyone’s there and it’s just too crowded for me, so I went with a friend on a Tuesday night. I’ve seen a post going around Facebook from an adoptive mom saying that Finding Dory is a movie that should… Continue reading
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An Open Letter (Combined with Something I Needed to Rant About)
To the Parents at the Trampoline Park, I don’t understand why you bring your children to somewhere like a trampoline park, and then don’t watch them, but yet you seem to think you can get mad at us when they get hurt. You’re sitting there on your phone or totally engrossed in conversation with another mom instead of watching the kids. We… Continue reading
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{Birth} Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day. I kinda feel like it’s just a holiday made up my Hallmark to sell cards and make more money… Now that I have a daughter who was adopted, the crazy holiday doesn’t seem to bother me as much anymore. I guess it’s because I feel like I have a(nother) reason to celebrate now. I mean, I… Continue reading
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I Don’t Know How
A wonderful friend of mine wrote this one night while struggling to deal with her daughter who was having a meltdown. It is exactly the way I picture myself when I have kids in the future. Sometimes, I just don’t know how to console you, Reassure you that you have validity, Not get impatient or… Continue reading
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A Few Adoption Misconceptions
I want to start off by apologizing for posting a day late. Things weren’t the greatest emotionally, and I didn’t want to put something up when I knew it wouldn’t be good quality. But as I couldn’t sleep last night, I decided to pull this together and go ahead and share it a day late.… Continue reading
About Me

Hello! Welcome! My name is Katy!
You can find me drinking coffee until it’s time for wine. Currently have 5 tattoos, but plans for more are in the works.
I’m a birthmom over 8 years post placement. I’ve been in a birthmom support group since November 2018, and will be leading my own come May 2023.
On Sunday mornings you can usually find me in the nursery or on the production team at church.
Various times throughout the year, you can find me staying with someone’s dog(s) while they’re away on a trip – so don’t be surprised if there are stories or pictures every so often.